Tuesday, 4 September 2012

What Makes a Relationship Successful?

In order for a relationship to be successful it must be balanced - an even and equal distribution of rewards creating a stable and healthy environment in which each individual can function at their best (Walster Walster and Berscheid’s, 1978).  A balanced relationship has the potential to enrich our lives, enhance our feelings of self-worth, support us in our pursuit of personal goals, provide us with feelings of comfort and enable us to freely express love.  They are “nurturing, stimulating and restorative” (Erskine, RG, Moursand, JP and Trautmann, RL; Beyond Empathy, p6)

Unbalanced relationships on the other hand are according to Homan’s Disruptive Justice Theory, one’s in which the costs and received rewards are disproportionate making one feel cheated.  Unbalanced relationships may also become ineffectual, no longer fulfilling a need or they may be unhealthy in which one individual exerts power over another depleting that person of his or her energy and joy.  Unbalanced relationships as a result can cause great personal distress.

The balance in relationships changes as we change and grow according to personal and external circumstances.  Some of these changes are temporary and others permanent.  Some long-term relationships such as marriage or the relationship between a mother and her child are flexible, adapting and growing with us.  Others are only seasonal and eventually fall away.  Trying to hold onto unbalanced relationships can be the cause of anxiety, fear, insecurity and conflict as one tries desperately to restore the balance.  Resentment, anger, guilt, jealousy and even a critical attitude may result if one does not understand and accept the nature of these changing relationships.

A therapist’s role is to help their client accept the things they cannot change and to have the confidence and wisdom to change the relationships, including the one with themselves, that are unbalanced, unhealthy or harmful.  There is always a price to pay for unbalanced relationships.  They deplete us of our energy and our enjoyment of life,  they erode away at our confidence and prevent us from pursuing our dreams and fulfilling our potential.  Ultimately they prevent us from functioning as a human, and of being in the world as a whole, fulfilled person.

If you are struggling in a relationship, be it with your partner, boss, work colleague, friend or even yourself, counselling can encourage you to explore areas in your life that are harmful, help you discover healthier ways of interacting with others and support you as you begin to make positive changes in your life.

I offer both couples and individual counselling.

If you would like to book your free 30 minute consultation, call me on 0783 4226 025 or email me at chameleoncoach101@gmail.com

Saturday, 1 September 2012

Weight Loss Group Sessions

An affordable and convenient way to help those who are struggling with their weight or sense of wellbeing, and as a result suffer from low moods or low self-esteem. 

The programme consists of 4 sessions over 4 weeks for 1 hr.

Dates:  Thursday Sep 20th, 27th and Oct 4th, 11th
Times:  You can chose either a morning or afternoon session:   
              Mornings from 10:00 – 11:00 or
              Afternoons from 1:30-2:30

I will use a combination of hypnosis, EFT and coaching to help you:

·      Uncover the emotional ties or triggers you may have to food,
·      Apply techniques to help you better cope with stress, pain and fear without resorting to food,
·      Reprogram your subconscious to desire healthy alternatives and a healthy lifestyle,
·      Create healthy eating and lifestyle habits,
·      Gain more confidence,
·      Increase your commitment to change,
·      Alter your attitude,
·      Breakdown the roadblocks and excuses to a healthy you,
·      Reach your own personal goals.

No weighing in and no diet plan!

What Is Your Investment?

It costs £60 per person (the equivalent of £15 per workshop) to be paid in full at time of booking.

Alternatively if you prefer you may book one-to-one hypnotherapy sessions, which cost £55 per session.

Places are limited so please book Now!

Call Chalene on 0783 4226 025 or email me at chameleoncoach101@gmail.com for further information.